I have been noticing how much my friends are unavailable these days and many of them don't wish to see me unless I have something tangible to offer (like being a touristic guide, offering my apartment or taking them for a car ride). I am really disappointed with friendship as it is these days and wondering whether it has always been this way and I am just realizing it, or whether things are changing in this world and even friendship is become an emotionless business that leaves everyone eternally alone.
The meaning of friendship these days?
You got it. People are becoming more and more self centered.
The meaning of friendship these days?
no offense, but thats a sign that your %26quot;friends%26quot; dont really like you. friendship is still real and true friends arae absolutely wonderful. basically this is what you do with a person you dont want to hurt, but don't know how to say %26quot;i like hanging out with you but only occasionally%26quot; this way you still are considered %26quot;friends%26quot; but you dont have to hang with the person. my friends and i always do it to people we dont want to hang out with too often but we still want to be polite to. or you could be positive and your friends are just really busy and when you do offer your apartment or car its a coincedince (sp?) that they are available. you decide.
The world's gonna end one day. And I think it's just coming soon. Friendship back then had way more value in it. These days, people just throw it down the drain if you don't have everything they want or something. Of course, there's still some people who make great friends, but those are just rare these days. You can always depend on family :]
Hello. I'm sorry to hear that you're having a rough time with your friends. My advice though is the people that only want something from you are not really your good friends. I have some people like that in my life. But the truth is, friendship is not a thing of the past. I have friends that I would do anything for and vice versa. They call me just to see how I am, and I do the same. We are generally concerened about each other's lives and care about each other. It sucks that your %26quot;friends%26quot; seem to be just using you. I would advise looking for some new friends. I know it's not an easy thing, but the benefits of a good friend are well worth the time spent to find them. I have only met about 5 of these people in my lifetime, but I wouldn't trade them for anything. I wish you well.
No, honey, thankless, selfish bast**** have been around since time began. They're like gnats.
Don't ever stop seeking friends; everybody needs somebody and we all need each other in this world. What you don't need, however, is thankless, selfish bast**** who make you not want to pursue friendship and the kind of love that friends give each other.
Don't let them stop you from pursuing happiness, comfort and love. Ditch those bit****!
Good luck!
It all started with cell phones, instant messaging, and: TEXTING.
When was the last time anyone had a meaningful, deep, and EYE TO EYE conversation with someone?
Yea some people are just to selfish to care about others unless it benefits them.
wow thats deep. ^_^ i get where ur coming from tho
..wow kinda deep and kinda dark .. but then again pretty damn true too! haha..? weird..huh?
hi there
r u a sensitive person or r u asking this for the heck of it? the opposite personalities will be less concerned by this. I know i'm sensitive person(or have I became one?...)
i take ur question philosophically...it depends on what community(city versus small town....) u live in since friendship problems r not the same in different cultures either (ex some don't think friends should be there to rely on or r there to talk about personal problems execpt family and friends usually act like what u have described..what i call closed cultures). it's been a while that i've been living in north America . I have a mixed ethnicity and i was raised poor..(not even computer at home nor enough money to eat)so i can compare different values of the society i lived/live in.
i say it's related to money that allows access to things and knowledge...power/information! and i read about it too. (personal research: people with one child or many with means having different problems and morals/values versus.....)..look at world history! also look at people that change social class/statuses..........
i find that u stick to the crowd that resembles u in terms of what u appreciate the most: friendship or else...that goes in a common gathering of 2 people in a relationship to build a family, etc. (even the definition/reason of marriages have changed).
now how u live ur life will depend on ur knowledge of ur upbringing and personal experiences in friendship or else....i have witnessed confrontation..to the types u described to be freindship...thy'll say that u r either depressed or r needy type...the fact is not all value same things and u r probably with a crowd that moved on to different sets of appreciation in life! but u remained the same ......
sorry but there's a larger picture here to think about in our consumer societies...a few good people with definition of urs and mine(I'm old fashion) r hard to find in this larger world ....as just an example..read the questions asked in yahoo from present day people(kids and adults) with real problems...and the ones about freindship then there r those in counties where there's hunger! collectivist versus individualistic /capitalist /socialist societies...just look at education system in North America (ex Canada %26amp; U.S.) and europe or other countries for example. philosophies behind it r different and affects our societies. or even better..notice the changes on what used to be on tv and now what's on dish networks....and what about types of entertaintment we have on them!
i have gone deeper in answering ur question but here is something to think about a bit further about world (humanity) as u ask...hospitals are created in each country to really help...then why do we charge for saving lives???? if u understood the system...of how societies r built....then u'll understand about our changing world.
[..]or whether things are changing in this world and even friendship is become an emotionless business that leaves everyone eternally alone.
the commonsense level in humans is not the same if not there will be no social classes in the world! and no one would talk about oh he/she took advantage of me...etc...[...]friendship is become an emotionless business [...]there are people that are diplomate in terms of friend relations...without further explaination just look at the people with very buisy carrier, in downtown (city). (have u lived not just studied but lived in big city???)
ahhh only if we vaued the human kindness/values then the richers would have shared their fortunes in a common bank...and all helped eachother to build communities by giving sevices!
read psychology under sociology title (i cannot think of particular book..but when ever i read ur type of questions. in yahoo...thinking about world...it makes me go back to the time when i was curious about how societies are built in hierarchy...in social class and how it affects has affected human psyches at present. it is depressing! so now i don't bother with why this or why that and try to live my life clean ...or as people that know me say..may be too cautiously and %26quot;sans-foutiste%26quot;....)
(PS: i am totally a city girl and live in a big enough and diverse city in terms of ethnicities/religions/sexual preferences....city people live in a faster pace ...i have traveled to small towns ...mostly in U.S. ....things are seen differenty in both communities what is called being nice and living/values...i felt lots of genuine compassion from people in small towns compare to the ones in city. I find it's peacefull living in North America than in U.K. thats my experience since in America i don't get social pressure...
(English is my 3rd written and spoken language and i haven't written a text in it from the last 5 years..so i'm sure my syntax doesn't express correctly my points sorry for that...so some points could seem harsh when u read..my friend point it out to me).
